Why We Continue with IVF

I've been asked over and over again why we continue to put our efforts into IVF when we could begin the adoption process.   Well my answer is FAITH.  Even before we started this process my husband and I knew we were meant to be parents.  After the quest to have a baby did not turn out how we had planned, that fact never changed. 
We have put so much into this process: time, money, emotion you name it this process has been exhausting at times.  One important tip that I can give couples is that please sit down and really talk about what starting this process means.  IVF will test you as a person and as a couple.  What I love about my husband and my relationship is that before we started we made a decision and we've stuck to it.  That does not mean that someday we may say alright we tried it's time to adopt, however, it does mean that we will put our all into IVF.
For us there were a few factors that we have put into our decision.
1.) Money: I know you may be thinking, "I would spend anything to have a baby," well true I will spend a lot
 but I will not allow for our life to be hurt in anyway.  We set a cap that we were willing to spend on IVF before we would switch gears to adoption.  That was important.
2.) My health:  I am a type 1 diabetic and have gone through so much already with the ectopic pregnancies.
3.) Our emotional health:  Loosing 3 babies and really in our eyes loosing another 2 through the failed IVF procedures has taken a lot out of us.  We had to be really honest about how badly our heart hurts about everything we've been through and the simple fact that we still do not have a child of our own.  It really is devastating, but that does not change the fact that we love each other very much and this is what we want.

Of course, there were other things to think about but those were the 3 major things for us.  Please just remember to talk it's important.

As I sit here typing this I am baby-sitting my nephew, Mason and he is smiling at me with those big blue eyes.  Once again I am reminded that I can handle this physical pain and I can handle the emotional pain because the prize at the end will all be worth it.